- You have stopped saying “we”.
You mean to say “we” and then you think about the reality. Your partner has changed, is different, and you can’t see them as being on the same team as you anymore. They are not your partner in life’s journey, they are a stranger who lives with you and shares your home. So why bother saying we? It was an easy word to use when things were going well between you two, but now it just doesn’t fit because of all the other things that don’t fit anymore either.
2. You no longer care about each other.
You may feel like you’re in a relationship with your best friend and that’s wonderful, but it’s important to remember that there needs to be more than just mutual respect. The best relationships have some sort of emotional or physical connection. Some people are able to maintain this type of connection throughout their entire life together, but others find themselves losing interest and growing apart.
It can be difficult when a relationship isn’t working as well as it once did, especially if you still care about each other as friends. This kind of distance is something that often happens after children arrive and couples become busy with taking care of the kids, juggling jobs and finances, etc. If all else fails (and even if it doesn’t), try asking yourself: Do I want my marriage to continue? If not, then don’t wait around for things to get better – make them better!
3. You’ve stopped listening to each other.
If you’ve stopped listening to each other, it’s time to reevaluate your relationship.
Whether it’s a long-term partner or a new love interest, relationships are built on the foundation of communication. If things seem off but you can’t identify the issue, don’t be afraid to ask yourself if something may be wrong. Often times when there is an argument or conflict in our lives, we tend to focus on what we’re mad about rather than hearing what our loved one has been saying all along.
Here are some signs that you aren’t listening:
You’re not acknowledging their feelings when they talk about them (e.g., “I’m tired,” “I’m frustrated,” etc.)
When they speak to you about something important that happened throughout their day, you respond with “Why do we care so much? It doesn’t matter!” or “Well I would have done it differently…” instead of just listening and understanding where they’re coming from before giving advice or feedback on how they could have handled themselves better under similar circumstances in the future while still being empathetic and sympathetic towards their situation without judging them for it (or vice versa). This can also apply if one partner is always giving advice/feedback instead of just being present for his/her spouse during difficult times and trying hard not judge him/her based on past behavior patterns; this shows respect towards each other as individuals who deserve unconditional love from friends/family members even though sometimes things happen outside our control which makes us upset–but ultimately everyone deserves compassion.”
4. You feel as though you are no longer in love with each other.
Another sign that your marriage is coming to an end is that you feel as though you are no longer in love with each other. This can be a hard thing for most people to admit, but if you really examine how you feel about your partner, it may be time for some soul-searching. The first question that comes up when this happens is “Do I still love my spouse?” The second question is “Do I feel connected to them?” The third question should be “Do I want to spend time with them?” And finally, ask yourself if you think they are still attractive and desirable. Do these questions make sense? If so then it would appear as though there might be some issues going on in your relationship!
5. One of you is emotionally abusive
One of the most common signs that your marriage is on its deathbed is emotional abuse. This can take many forms, including name-calling and put-downs. It also includes threats to harm or leave you if you don’t do what they want. An emotionally abusive partner may also force you to spend time with other people who make fun of you or treat you badly.
It’s important to remember that emotional abuse is not the same thing as psychological abuse—you don’t have to have mental health issues for someone else to be abusive toward you emotionally!
6. One of you has been physically abusive
Physical abuse is a crime and not a sign of love.
It is never okay to be physically abusive toward your partner, whether it’s once or dozens of times. It is not a sign of strength, respect or communication. The only way to stop the cycle of abuse is by calling the police and getting help from an expert in domestic violence (which could be a doctor or therapist).
7. Neither of you make an effort anymore.
Some of the most common signs that a marriage is coming to an end are when one or both spouses stop trying. They no longer make an effort for their partner’s sake, and they cease caring how their actions affect the other person. This can take many forms: from being lazy to being selfish, from being self-centered to being self-absorbed, from being self-righteous to being self-pitying and even from being self-indulgent.
8. You both come home late, and don’t share a meal together.
When you and your partner come home from work, do you just go straight to your room without spending any time together? Do you spend more time talking with the kids than each other? When was the last time you had a really good conversation with each other?
The next time that happens, try sharing a meal together. For example, if it’s dinner time, fix something simple like sandwiches (or whatever) and sit down at the table together. If it’s breakfast or lunchtime and neither of you want to cook anything complicated (and we’re not saying that meals have to be elaborate), then maybe go out for food instead of eating random things around the house or on the couch at night.
9. You plan for the future separately.
One of the biggest signs that your marriage is coming to an end is if you and your spouse start planning for the future separately. If you’re always thinking about what’s next in life, including where you want to live, who will do what job, and so on, then it’s time to have a serious conversation with your husband or wife.
If one of you wants kids and the other doesn’t (or vice versa), if one person wants to move to a different city while the other is happy where they are… this kind of disagreement can be difficult enough in a healthy relationship. But when there’s distance between two people—when they’re not communicating well with each other—it becomes much more difficult for them to come up with solutions that are mutually agreeable.
10. The two of you never talk about your relationship.
You and your spouse aren’t communicating.
You and your spouse aren’t talking about your relationship the way you used to.
When you do talk about it, it doesn’t feel like a conversation; instead, it feels more like an argument or debate.
It’s important to understand your marriage, and when it’s over.
It’s important to understand your relationship, and when it’s over.
When you are in a relationship that isn’t working out, it can be difficult to know what exactly is wrong in the marriage. You may have been having problems for a long time, or there could have just been some recent problems that made you realize things aren’t going well anymore.